When I was young I was consumed (i.e., grasping, big time) with figuring out “who I was” and what was “right” and what was “wrong” – once I had all of those answers nailed down I thought I’d be able to get down to the business of living in perpetual bliss and self-satisfaction (and, of course, fixing all that was wrong with all the other people, places and things in the world!) But the reality for me is that my ideas are continuously changing as my perspective changes and my experience broadens.
It’s good for me to have beliefs and convictions and to act from a place of wanting to be a continual positive force in the world, but it is also good for me to hold onto those beliefs and convictions somewhat loosely to allow space for new ideas to present themselves. To allow for the possibility that what I believe strongly today may not be what I believe strongly tomorrow. This for me has been the difference between living my life fully and openheartedly versus building walls around myself in order to ensure that nothing tries to chisel away at the beliefs and ideas that I think are absolutely right and inarguable. Practicing Aparigraha in this way helps me to feel more at ease in the world and with the people around me who are also living their best lives given their current background of experiences and perspectives.
It always comes down to balance, right? The balance between embracing my beliefs and living and acting in accordance with them but also allowing room for "who I am" to change and evolve. And as always, we can find lots of philosophical answers in the words of 1980's pop songs -- I'll leave you today with these words from .38 Special:
Hold on loosely, but don't let go -- if you cling too tightly, you're gonna lose control.
Peace and love,